Arguments and disagreements happen. It is a part everyday life. And as humans our goal is to win every time. But is it worth it to win or to make peace?
• Virtue: PEACE – Proving you are more about each other than winning an argument.
• Scripture Verse: So let us do all we can to live in peace. And let us work hard to build up one another. Romans 14:19 (NIrV)
Bottom Line: Prove you care about others by being part of the solution. – Upward Sports
Arguments and disagreements happen. It is a part of everyday life. And as humans our goal is to win every time.
Why? Because we all know that we are right 99.9% of the time. And that .1% was a fluke when I was sick and I could not think straight.
This is especially true with Facebook conversations.
What about with our spouses? I love to win an argument. I have humbly come to realize that I am right every time so we should never have another argument again. (Please read that as satire)
In winning arguments we often do so at the expense of our relationships. This is called a Pyrrhic victory.
“A Pyrrhic victory is a victory that inflicts such a devastating toll on the victor that it is tantamount to defeat. Someone who wins a Pyrrhic victory has been victorious in some way. However, the heavy toll negates any sense of achievement or profit. Another term for this would be “hollow victory”.” Wikipedia
Our relationships are important. And are not worth sacrificing for the sake of winning.
Even if you are right you should ask yourself is this argument worth winning?
More often than not it is not worth winning.
Peace is something that is greatly desired in relationships but is not easy to come by.
Why? Because often it takes one to admit that you are wrong or to give up ground in an argument.
Romans 12:18 (ESV)
18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
The only person in life that you can control is yourself. When it comes to making peace or not winning an argument, you are only responsible for yourself.
So the question that you have is: Is there a mutual solution to this argument so that there can be peace?
So here are a few ideas:
– Look for common ground
– Look for ways to have a discussion and not an argument
– Look for a way to politely agree to disagree
– Look for a way to compromise
– Look for ways to be positive and loving through it
– Count the cost of winning or losing the argument?
It is your responsibility to do your best to live at peace with those around you.
So what is your best strategy for making peace in a relationship?